About Me

Single-but-attached 47-year old seeking personal satisfaction through blogging. A lifelong southerner, I have recently moved to urban Ohio and am transitioning from living in the Bible Belt to the place I think of as the crack showing above its waistband (“crack” being the operative word– there’s lots of it here).

In past incarnations, I’ve been a singing telegram girl, a cocktail waitress, a freelance greeting card/slogan writer, an optician, a payroll clerk, a counselor/advocate at a university, and a Human Resources coördinator.

I have fibromyalgia, which has sort of changed the course of my life. I have a separate blog about that. If you’re interested, you can view it here.

Hobbies are: painting, photography, writing, bicycling, art, movies, music and reading.

Favorite people in the universe: Tom (my angel), my two precious children, and my amazing friends and family.

I love feedback– please feel free to leave comments, or contact me at the address listed on my sidebar. Happy trails to you!

Update (October 5th, 2010): Wow, how things have changed. Since writing this, I’ve lived in Tennessee, Texas and now Arkansas. My fibromyalgia has been in remission for more than a year (woo hoo!). Tom and I split up, and one of those precious children of mine recently had a baby.  I acquired Theo the Wonderdog ®, my little Chihuahua/ Jack Russell mix. I turned fifty and lived to tell about it.

I’m still writing, still painting, still bicycling (though I have a flat right now). I walk an awful lot, hike when I can, and not too long ago I floated down a river in a canoe and long to do it again- as many times as I can.  I’m learning guitar and I’ve been writing some really terrible songs lately.

I don’t spend quite as much time on this blog as I used to, but I will always come back to it. Life is good, life is ever-changing, life keeps me busy.  xoxox

Update (November 3rd, 2011):  It’s been the most incredible year. For one thing, I SUPPORTED MYSELF BY WRITING. I met incredible people, traveled, camped, fished and fell in love with a most wonderful man. First we were friends, then roommates, then Significant Others and, as of eighteen days ago, husband and wife. He won’t let Theo the Wonderdog® call him “Dad,” but otherwise, we’ve all blended splendidly. The future’s so bright, I have to wear sunscreen, a visor AND shades.

 

Update (September 24, 2013): 

Holy hoppin’ hormones, I’ve had another birthday. It occurred to me, looking at my About page, that I’m way overdue for an update. I started this blog at the tender age of, um…46. So much has changed.

Avatars are ageless. Theda Bara was in her early thirties when the above photo was taken. No crow’s feet, no gray hair, and those Frisbees on her boobs sit proudly upright. I feel a little guilty now, using such a hottie photo at this stage of the game, so, using a special age progression technique (GIMP), I’ve changed it to more accurately reflect the present:

thedabellydancingcurrent

I really look nothing like this, but it’s the best I can do.

Since that last update, I’ve been settling into a life of happy domestic bumbling. In a few weeks, Amadeus and I will celebrate our second anniversary. In many ways, it feels as though we’ve always been together (so much so that I had to actually look up the year we married as I wrote this). I’ve learned so much from this guy I’m with. About love, collaboration, partnership, and whose responsibility it is to put away the #$%^ laundry.

Our lives aren’t fancy–we squeak by–but we squeak together.  Amadeus recently retired from teaching and traded half of his income for freedom. We’re still adjusting, but overall, it’s been a great experience. We hike and fish from riverbanks, take photos, soak up art and music and words. We also sit on the sofa like potatoes in comas;  he works on a webpage he’s started, I work on my writing.  It’s not the most exciting adventure, but I swear to you, we could be changing a tire and I’d find some sort of joy in it. I pinch myself often. Ouch.

Amadeus plays in bands, I do occasional presentations and readings of my work. We write songs, together and separately, and sometimes perform them in public. I read a disclaimer before we sing, so as not to damage my husband’s career as a professional musician.  I’ve self-published a couple of not-so-great books, produced an audio book, and learned scads in the process. Not long ago, one of my stories was chosen for an NPR radio show, and I got to read it to the entire world. Never, ever would I have believed that my life would look like this. Never did I imagine that my fifties would be the most exciting, soul-filling chapter of my life. It’s making me all weepy to write it.

My dream is still to make an actual income from doing these things. It’s a fuzzy picture, but it’s coming into focus. Amadeus and I are at a stage in life where we’re willing to pack up and relocate, so if you know of anyone who’s looking for a couple of loons for hire, please let us know.

This story keeps rolling around in my head, this little story about nothing. One night, there was a meteor shower, and a friend invited us out to his house in the country to watch it. Amadeus, my son and I drove up his dirt road, where he met us, beer in hand. Despite the remote location, there were huge lights on poles and we kept moving our chairs, trying to strategically block the glare behind a stand of trees. Finally, we each found a satisfactory patch of sky, and the four of us watched the show, softly oohing and aahhing as stars shot across the heavens. In between meteors, we sat in silent anticipation, soaking up the delicious feeling that comes from knowing something beautiful is about to happen. A peacefulness permeated the cool air, and I was suddenly overwhelmed with gratitude. The world was safe and sweet. I was among such good people. A small thing, but a huge gift. It wasn’t the stars–well it was the stars–but it was also the fact that I could now see them so clearly.

I’m always wary of all of the Web Buddhas and self-proclaimed sages who offer advice online.  But in honor of my birthday, I want to throw a log onto the wisdom pile. If you’re reading these words and your life has been sludge, just know that things change. Life turns on a shiny dime. Be tenacious. I believe in you. It may take a while before you see the shooting stars, but I promise, they’re there.

P.S. Theo the Wonderdog® says to tell you “hi.”

56 thoughts on “About Me

  1. meliluvsu says:

    Like
    I said in my last comment I grew up in Ohio and now
    I live in South
    Carolina… thats weird…lol

  2. Welcome to Dayton and please feel free to add my blog!

  3. Netty Gritty says:

    thanks for visiting my bog! and i will be exploring your blog a while later, as my neck pain ( i have spondylitis) is killing me right now due to militant blogging the past few days ( i am supposed to be away from computers for quite a while :( )

    cheers!

  4. FLD: Thanks!

    Netty, I hope you’re feeling better soon. I can relate to blogging around pain. Do you have a laptop? I just got an old, used one, and I think it’s going to change my (computing) life.
    Looking forward to rummaging through your blog posts. You’ve got some good stuff there!

  5. Netty Gritty says:

    i used to have a very good secondhand mac laptop. would you believe it if i told you that i dropped it ? yeah, i did. and it broke. so i am on the lookout for another old mac. gosh, those things are expensive! but after having a mac, nothing else even compares!

    and i am glad you liked my blog! please give me suggestions as to what you would like to find in that blog. i am quite dedicated to my readers’ needs, if they express them! :D

  6. Netty Gritty says:

    oh my god! do you HAVE to make me cry? do you do it on purpose? what do you get out of it? what did i do to deserve this??????????

    gosh, you put me on YOUR BLOGROLL! i um, um, ahem, um, actually.well, i think i should stop now.

    btw, those were tears of happiness – and it’s not like i cried really. but my eyes did go moist!

    THANKS for liking my blog so much! :D

  7. Oh no!!! What did I do? How did my “About Me” page make you cry? Is it the picture? Is it because I added you to my Blogroll? Warning– I am a moody woman, and my blog reflects this– I can go from cynical to sentimental in about 0.2 seconds. I wish I knew how to categorize my posts by tone, but I haven’t figured that one out yet. And I really do like your blog.

  8. Netty Gritty says:

    you put me on your blogroll! that’s what made me say all that! and yeah, your about page rocks! and no, i don’t mind crying tears of joy! and i like moody bloggers! :D

  9. Netty Gritty says:

    i see you got that eco button!
    looking good!

    i never actually mentioned that i looooooooooooooooooooooooooooove the pic you have under “stealing is a sin”.

  10. Netty– I did! And thanks for posting the button. I hope my “Stealing’s A Sin” sign actually works– I should probably put up a more “official” copyright notice, but hopefully, this will do.

  11. Anna Tipton says:

    Happy Holloween,I saw Bunky on the internet news about mystic voyage. It was very nice. It will be intresting to see Bunky turn it to a great leader. I pay attetion to Wiccans in the spotlight or famous stars or musicians who are wiccan , it’s a very precarious position to be in, famous AND Wiccan,Let’s see here,UM,well I guess anything is possible even for a Wiccan.But ,the spotlight can be precarious. I happen like Bunky’s forthrightouesness on teaching other wiccans on how to be financially responsible. I twas actually a first to hear those words outside of the household, good for Bunky and his crew. I need some wholesome teachings myself on finacially responsiblity ,if it is intertwined with Wiccanism I can now Digest my problems ,once again ,Thankx Bunky…

  12. ajerseyromance says:

    I just wanted to stop by and say hello and tell you how glad I am to have stumbled upon your blog. I LOVE your writing and know I will look forward to your updates. I hope you don’t mind me adding you to my blogroll. Write on! I love it all!

  13. Thanks so much! I’m honored to be added to your blogroll.

  14. bbabe says:

    I love your blog; it is very interesting. I have two blogs myself one political and one about life with chronic illness (grave’s disease, reactive arthrits, raynaud’s phenomenon). Anyway, just wanted to let you know you have another fan out there.

  15. @ bbabe: Thanks so much for your nice comments. I looked at your health blog, and I really like it. If it’s okay, I’d like to add it to my blogroll on my FibromyOWgia site. Didn’t see a link to your political blog– can you give me the URL?

  16. boundandgags says:

    What greeting card companies have you worked for? I wrote for a bunch of small ones and American Greetings. I interviewed at Hallmark but the woman who would have been my supervisor hated me on sight.

  17. @ B&G: I’ve only freelanced, though I’d kill to work for Hallmark. I’ve sold stuff to Carol Wilson Fine Arts, Ephemera (I think they supply Archie McPhee with buttons, bumper stickers, etc), and Kalan, Inc. (who supplies greeting cards to Spencer’s Gifts).

    This was all long ago and far away.

  18. boundandgags says:

    I like writing greeting cards. Suits my simple mind. Get in, get out. Everything’s wrapped up in less than fifteen words. When I was writing for a bunch of them everyday I’d look at the needs, find a subject I was interested in, and write ten to twenty bits. That worked for me. I haven’t done it for a while. The market seems to have dried up some for freelancers.

    I do, of course, have a story. I was in a card store (doing research) and a woman picked up a card, read it, laughed, and tucked it away. I noted where she was (have to check my competition) and when she moved I wandered over. It was mine. I laughed my ass off. She looked at me, saw I had the same card so I told her, although I knew she wasn’t going to believe me, I wrote it. It was the only time I ever saw a card of mine in a store.

    And, truthfully, the woman at Hallmark hated me before she met me. She told me she was interviewing me because other people liked me. She thought I was vulgar and risque. Well, dah! After the interview I got a check for something like $2.76 from them. It took me a while before it dawned on me why. It was to cover postage for something I’d sent them. I framed it, hung it in my office and would look at it whenever I started to feel cocky. That’s what I’m worth to one of the giants. I don’t know where it is right now but, in my head, I know it’s there.

  19. WC says:

    Love the pics and the blog…here’s a shout out from North Carolina!

  20. @ b&g: I don’t know why I’m just now seeing this, but I love it! Sorry you didn’t get the Hallmark job, but at least you can always say you got a check from them!

    When I wrote cards, I’d have different companies that I’d send ideas to, depending on my mood. At one point, I was in an unhappy marriage, and that’s when I was able to sell a LOT. All of my smart assy, cynical thoughts were actually making money! When I was feeling happy, I’d write for some of the more upbeat publishers, but my sales went down! Is there a moral here?

    @ WC: Shout out back! Thanks for the nice comments– glad you stopped by here!

  21. David says:

    Just kind of fell into this blog, but I like it.
    Bravo. Very well done.
    -djr
    litrags.wordpress.com

    @ David: So glad you fell in! I’m enjoying your poetry.

  22. croneandbearit says:

    love your blog. I’m an east coast gal who ended up an urban Ohioan (Dayton) but long to retire a bit further south. come visit me @ croneandbearit.wordpress.com. Linda

  23. @ croneandbearit: How nice to “meet” another Daytonian! We’re hoping to end up in a more southern locale too. I’m heading over to your blog.

  24. kirbyann says:

    I moved from The Crack to The Bible Belt lol. I am going to add you to my blogroll.

  25. @ kirbyann: I’m so glad you stopped by! You’re name’s not linked to your blog. Can you give me the URL so I can visit?

  26. Narnie says:

    I see from the side there that you like Banksy… oh! me too. Im lucky to live in Brighton and we have loads of his work splashed on walls in the city centre and seafront. My favourite is the one of Jesus that he has done on a lamppost down on the prom, with the spikes (that are there to stop pigeons resting) as his crown of thorns. He is just brilliantly original.

  27. @ Narnie: I do love Banksy. You are so lucky to see his stuff live and in person. I agree– just brilliant.

    I visited you blog for a little while earlier, and I really like it. I’ve subscribed, and am looking forward to reading more.

  28. Narnie says:

    thanks – that is such a huge compliment… :) Here is the link to that Banksy that is my favourite. Perfect that someone has scrawled PAX underneath.
    http://www.flickr.com/photos/mintball/580877677/

  29. @ Narnie: This is wonderful! Thank you– I hadn’t seen it!

    I read your post today, and liked it a lot. I don’t always comment, because sometimes I just can’t come up with appropriate words, but I just want to let you know I’m reading!

  30. rick mobbs says:

    hey mz moonbeammcqueen, nice to find you. I’ll be coming back for more…

  31. @ rick: I’m so glad you stopped by! Your blog looks fascinating. I looked around a little, but when I’m feeling a bit better, I plan to look a lot!

  32. Lucky says:

    I’m a ‘tard. I just realized I’ve never read your “About Me” until now. Maybe that’s a compliment. I found you so interesting I didn’t need to know more ;) (Iam glad I finally read though!)

  33. @ Lucky: If you’re a ‘tard, I’m lucky to be breathing. I’m glad you read it too– I love “about me” pages (although this one needs updating). I went back to make sure I’d read yours. Yup. Love it.

  34. mallorypaige says:

    love your blog! great writing, wonderful content, free spirit

  35. Kerry Ann says:

    I surfed across your blog today and I came to appreciate what you have here. I have added you to my Humor Blog blogroll and was wondering if you might add me to yours? Either way, thanks for the great experience of visiting your site and hope you enjoy mine. Thanks Kerry Ann

  36. @ mallorypaige: For some reason, I’m just now seeing your comment here, but thank you so much!

    @ Kerry Ann: Hi and welcome! Thanks for the nice comments and the link– I visited your site and really liked it, so yes, I’ve added you too.

  37. Josh Bokaie says:

    You have a very neat blog! It’s weird I found this becauseI was actually looking up one of my favorite childhood tv shows, Wishbone and I saw where you left a comment on one website saying that you had worked with Angee Hughes at one time who played Wanda Gilmore the next door neighbor on the show. I know this has nothing to do with your blog, but if you do not mind me asking, what was it like working with her? She was always one of my favorite characters on the show and I can never find anything on her. Again, you have a great website!!

  38. Hi Josh– Sorry it’s taken so long for me to answer this. I’ve been taking a little blog break. It was fun working with Angee. She had a different last name back then, and I think that one of the things that stuck with me most was that she was a pretty brilliant actor, completely devoted to her craft. She was always in some play or another, and often had bit parts in movies that filmed in our area. She was thin as a rail, had a tiny, very distinctive voice, and was quite an interesting person. She seems to be appearing in more and more films and television shows, and I’m glad for her. She’s worked hard, and deserves it.

    Hope this answers your question- I’m glad you stopped by!

  39. michelle2005 says:

    I followed your ‘footprints’ over here from the blog of ‘girlfromtheghetto’

    You have a great site! I can relate to much of what you say…especially being in the midst of some significant physical issues.

    I look forward to visiting often. I’ll be eager to read what you post next.

    Kindest Regards,

    Michelle

  40. Narnie says:

    Hello you, remember me? It’s been quite a while and I was thrilled to find your page again today… but January? Aren’t the words busting to get out? I will console myself by reading more of your posts that I missed. I hope you are well Moonbeam. :)

  41. matt says:

    i went back to ohio
    but my city was gone
    there was no train station
    no down town
    hey oh a o-hi-o

    ohio has its bad parts but i wouldnt trade it for anywhere (besides floride :D). anywhere columbus and BELOW is fine. anywhere ABOVE columbus is crap.

  42. Robert Foreman says:

    Would like your ok to use your “morning” photo on my poetry website please. Great image!

    Not sure which photo you’re referring to, Robert, but go for it! Do you have a link to your poetry site?

  43. panicmonster says:

    love your blog, glad i came across it, looking forward to reading some more <3

    http://www.panicmonster.com

  44. gandalfe7 says:

    Luv the picture of you on this page. ;O)

    Ha! Thanks! It’s my alter ego. And no, that bra did not come from Victoria’s Secret.

  45. You have a lot of interests I have. I just moved from Tennessee to Arizona.
    I will sub to your blog. I love reading it.
    Connie

    That’s wonderful- glad to have you here!

    My mother just moved to Arizona and she LOVES it!

  46. gandalfe7 says:

    Wish WordPress had a better stream so that I’d see this comment and be able to navigate to the site and page that it was posted to. Maybe someday. I got the email alert, clicked on it and it sent me to your home page. Sigh, that’s just weird. I’ll ping the tech staff… again. Be well Moonbeam.

    Hmmmmmm…..that’s odd. If you click on the “My Comments” section on your Dashboard, it should show all the comments that you’ve made, on this blog and others. I hope that’s helpful.

    You be well too, Gandalfe, and thanks for stopping back by!

  47. Dale Anderson says:

    Just received your latest post. Hope you will keep writing and posting as often as you can. Keep up the good work and stay strong.

    Dale

    I’m so glad to see you lurking, Dale. I do plan to keep it up, though I’m sure my output’s going to drop a bit. Thank you for the encouragement.

    P.S. Do you have a URL for your blog? It’s not linked to your comment.

  48. Anonymous says:

    did you attend peak 95 international camp chatsworth england?

    No.

  49. Congratulations on the happy improvements :)

    Thank you, Pam!!!

  50. Pigeon Heart says:

    Yay ! You rock!!

    Shucks…thanks, Pigeon. So do you. I’m glad you’re here.

  51. Expat Alien says:

    You have been nominated… tag, you’re it
    http://expatalien.com/2012/04/30/my-abcs/

    Expat, THANK YOU!!! You’ve made me so very heppy.

  52. rheath40 says:

    I’ve included you in a “look” challenge if you want to participate please go to my page:
    http://rendezvouswithrenee.com/2012/10/27/the-look-challenge/

    Oooh, this sounds like fun! I’m definitely up for this challenge! Just have to think of five writers to tag. I’ll be on it soon– and thank you for thinking of me!

  53. Hi,

    My name is Kevin Gillespie, I do, MUCH prefer to be called Kev, however.

    I live in Wales, & am now ‘Following’ your Blog. :)

  54. Well, hi Kev. Thanks for following my blog–following you back.

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